Welcome

Marriage can be the most challenging human relationship, and yet, many enter into it without developing the skills necessary to have a successful, life-long relationship. Soon they find themselves enduring the frustrations, disagreements and loneliness that emerge, assuming “This must be all there is,” or thinking “We’ve made a big mistake.” Marriage doesn’t have to be that way.

In The Solution for Marriages, Jeff Murphy and Chuck Dettman show you what God’s fascinating design for marriage is and how successful marriage mentors and pastors are teaching couples to build awesome marriages. This guide masterfully combines timeless biblical wisdom, critical relationship skills, and empowering resources that have led many couples to a successful marriage.

For Marriage Mentors, Pastors and Counselors

While the vast majority of weddings take place in churches, few are prepared to provide pre-marriage mentoring and ongoing marriage enrichment training that comprehensively covers biblical principles and best practices. Marriage mentors, pastors and counselors, using the The Solution for Marriages, can more effectively help couples address their unique issues and prepare for lifelong marriage. When this type of skilled marriage mentorship is provided, divorce is virtually eliminated.

As one overseer of an entire district of pastors recently said, “I wish I had this guide to help equip marriage mentors when I was in the pastorate.” The Solution for Marriages and the resources provided on this web site will take the professional’s and layperson’s mentoring to a whole new level.

ABOUT THE SOLUTION FOR MARRIAGES

This unique guide, The Solution for Marriages, provides a comprehensive reference for everyone looking to mentor a couple through today’s complex issues. This book masterfully prepares the marriage mentor by combining timeless biblical wisdom, critical relationship skills, and empowering resources that are the keys to a successful marriage.

You will discover how successful marriage mentors guide couples through the essential areas of marriage, including how to:

Communicate and Improve Their Conflict Resolution Skills
Grant Forgiveness and Build a Foundation of Trust
Understand the Impact Cohabitation has on the Marriage
Discover God’s Purpose for Marriage and Sex
Break Free from the Grip of Pornography
Protect Their Marriage from the Internet, Social Media, and Friends

Written by two marriage mentors with over 60 years of combined experience in helping couples experience the marriage God intended, you will find nothing else like it on the market. Their expert guidance has enabled pastors, marriage mentors, and couples to courageously wade through the maze of challenging issues that every couple faces.

Marriage Skills Training & Seminars

Today, leading churches and communities are experiencing dramatic results by providing marriage mentoring to pre-marital couples, married couples in need of enrichment, and even those ready to “call it quits.” Trained pastors and lay marriage mentors can have a profound impact transforming their church and community, one couple at a time.

Sadly, while the vast majority of weddings take place in churches, fewer than 5% of churches utilize lay marriage mentors and only about 30% require couples to take a relationship assessment as part of their marriage preparation. That’s a tragic, lost opportunity to provide engaged couples with the skills they will need for a successful marriage. We want to change that by offering several training options that can be customized to fit your specific needs.

Review the options below and then contact us so we can confirm pricing and availability.

Marriage Skills Training

Live or Remote Option

This seminar provides in-depth training in each of the topics selected and will enable attendees to mentor with confidence while addressing the needs of a wide range of couple needs.

Marriage Skills Kit

DIY Option

You can purchase our complete set of training materials along with copies of The Solution for Marriages for each participant and deliver each of the 14 training topics yourself.

Prepare/Enrich Certification

Target Audience: Pastors and Marriage Ministry Leaders interested in getting PREPARE/ENRICH Certified

Prepare/Enrich Training

Target Audience: Mentors who will be using PREPARE/ENRICH or Couple Checkup under the supervision of a person certified in PREPARE/ENRICH.

Our Services

Marriage Mentor Training/Certification

Trained pastors and lay marriage mentors can have a profound impact transforming their church and community, one couple at a time.

Couples

Engaged

Couples Needing a ‘tune up’

Couples in Crisis

Relationship Dynamics

Biblical Roles of Husbands & Wives

Decision Making in Marriage

Developing Spiritual Intimacy in Marriage

Family and Friends

Handling Cultural Differences

Surviving the Holidays

Family of Origin

Marriage Skills and Responsibilities

Communication

Granting Forgiveness

Conflict Resolution

Financial Management

Remarriage & Step Families

Remarriage

Trust

Balancing During the Holidays

Preparing for Remarriage

Meet the Experts

Written by two marriage mentors with over 60 years of combined experience in helping couples experience the marriage God intended, you will find nothing else like it on the market. Their expert guidance has enabled pastors, marriage mentors, and couples to courageously wade through the maze of challenging issues that every couple faces.

Glynis & Jeff Murphy

Co-Authors

Mae & Chuck Dettman

Co-Authors

What Marriage Champions Say About The Solution for Marriages!

With decades of experience in marriage ministry, Jeff and Chuck have written a much-needed book on mentoring. The Solution for Marriages is packed with helpful questions and assessments, giving those just starting the journey the tools they’ll need to not only survive, but to thrive as a couple.”

Jim Daly, President
Focus on the Family

“I believe the key to having strong, happy families starts with strong, healthy marriages. But marriage is not always easy, and when couples struggle, families suffer. That’s why it is so important to have leaders like Jeff Murphy and Chuck Dettman to guide us along the marriage journey. The Solution for Marriages is a simple, yet crucial mentoring handbook that provides the tools and topical information any mentor couple might need to confidently lead others in creating healthier marriages.”

Dan T. Cathy, President & COO
Chick-fil-A

“What a gift this magnificent book, ‘The Solution for Marriages: Mentoring a New Generation’ is to couples, families and churches everywhere. Jeff Murphy and Chuck Dettman have written the most comprehensive and informative resource on marriage we have come across in our many years as pastors and as teachers on marriage and family. We are so thankful for this life-giving resource and are excited to implement this teaching and mentorship ideal into the life of our church and ministry.”

John & Helen Burns, Senior Pastors
Relate Church, Vancouver, Canada

“Chuck and Jeff have created a wonderful marriage mentor training and support tool. Their many years of mentoring, successful marriages and love of God gives them a unique perspective from which to share practical tips that will enhance any marriage or relationship mentoring process. Refined and comprehensive, I appreciate how they have incorporated a great deal of the PREPARE/ENRICH framework into their work. The Solution for Marriages redefines the art of marriage mentoring!“

Peter J. Larson, Phd., LP
Co-Author Prepare-Enrich & Couple Checkup

The Solution for Marriages is one of the finest books available of its type that I am aware of. It is easy to read, uses best practices in marriage education, is theologically sound and is a unique resource to effectively help marriage mentors help other couples.”